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Friday, November 27, 2015

Cerita Tentang Cukup Di Hari Jumaat





Semalam kan final PU (pencetus ummah), adalah terkeluar ayat ni dr one of the PUs. Ayat ni ada yg gelar ayat seribu dinar, ayat menjemput rezeki. Mmg besar and mendalam sgt ayat ni dan ttba mcm rs ada 'ting' dlm hati atas kehidupan slama ini. Daddy peminat rancangan reality, semua pun dia tgk..tp mlm ni mcm lain. Betullah, hidup senang bukan sebab mewah sebab Allah berikan kecukupan.  

Betul kan? Saya taktaulah..dlm hidup dikota ni rmai yg mengejar duit yang mengejar kemewahan tp byk yg terkorban. Sanggup bekerja ditempat yg dia tak suka, buat benda yg dia langsung tak  minat sebab nak kan gajinya. Hari hari hadap pun tak pa janji bayar sedap. Tp hatinya runsing, jiwa nya terpadam. Macam mana pula. Begitulah..

:)


Jom tgk yg sy dpt di wassap. Menarik. Sesuai utk jumaat yg barakah ni :)




Beri jawapan di tempat kosong di bawah ini dan mohon
dijawab dgn jujur di dalam hati masing-masing..




1. Allah menciptakan tertawa dan ______
2. Allah itu mematikan dan ______
3. Allah menciptakan lelaki dan ______
4. Allah memberikan kekayaan dan ______











Kebanyakkan kita tentu akan dapat jawab dgn mudah
iaitu :
1. Menangis
2. Menghidupkan
3. Perempuan
Tapi bagaimana no.4?

Adakah jawapan kita "kemiskinan"???








Untuk mengetahui jawapannya, mari kita lihat rangkaian
firman Allah SWT di dalam Surah An-Najm ayat 43-45,
dan 48, sebagai rujukan:




ﻭَﺃَﻧَّﻪُ ﻫُﻮَ ﺃَﺿْﺤَﻚَ ﻭَﺃَﺑْﻜَﻰ
"dan Dia-lah yang menjadikan orang tertawa dan
menangis."
(Surah An-Najm : 43).




ﻭَﺃَﻧَّﻪُ ﻫُﻮَ ﺃَﻣَﺎﺕَ ﻭَﺃَﺣْﻴَﺎ
"dan Dia-lah yang mematikan dan menghidupkan."
(Surah An-Najm : 44).




ﻭَﺃَﻧَّﻪُ ﺧَﻠَﻖَ ﺍﻟﺰَّﻭْﺟَﻴْﻦِ ﺍﻟﺬَّﻛَﺮَ ﻭَﺍﻟْﺄُﻧﺜَﻰ
"dan Dia-lah yang menciptakan berpasang-pasangan
lelaki-lelaki dan perempuan. "
(Surah An-Najm : 45).





ﻭَﺃَﻧَّﻪُ ﻫُﻮَ ﺃَﻏْﻨَﻰ ﻭَﺃَﻗْﻨَﻰ
"dan Dia-lah yang memberikan kekayaan dan
kecukupan."
(Surah An-Najm : 48).





Ternyata jawapan kita semua betul dalam memberi
jawapan dari no. 1-3, tetapi untuk jawapan untuk no. 4
ramai terkeliru dgn apa yg Allah SWT janjikan.


Jawapan Allah Ta'ala dalam al-Qur'an bukan
"kemiskinan", tapi KECUKUPAN.





Subhanallah..

Sesungguhnya Allah Ta'ala hanya memberi Kekayaan
dan Kecukupan kepada hamba-Nya. Dan ternyata yg
"menciptakan" kemiskinan adalah diri kita sendiri.


Itulah hakikatnya, mengapa orang-orang yg sentiasa
bersyukur; walaupun hidup serba kekurangan ia akan
tetap tersenyum dan merasa cukup, bukan merasa
miskin!





Jadi, marilah kita bangkitkan rasa kesyukuran dan
kecukupan di dalam hati dan fikiran kita, berhenti
mengeluh, berhenti mengatakan rezeki kecil, agar kita
menjadi hamba-Nya yg selalu bersyukur.



It has been a long week :) A weekend to look forward to inshallah. A wedding to attend. A special wedding. Of those who are close in my heart.


Love,

Zahra




Tuesday, August 18, 2015

MEMASAK UNTUK RUMAH TERBUKA


I got this from a blog that i swear i had bookmarked, but when i try to find it back to give credits. hilang T_T

I hope the owner of this ilmu she wrote gets the pahala of what she had benefited others. My mom is no large quantity cook! My maklong (paternal aunt) and mak njang (maternal aunt) are great cooks. But the chef of honour skills really is with my Grandmother in law..hubs grandma, I learned few things already from her, but after my 1st anniversary, she had fallen sick and was bed ridden until today. I sticked on asking most of the things from her before, untill she remembers no more recently. Rugi sangat! But what she had told me is no different of what this blogger wrote. Lets share :)



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MEMASAK UNTUK RUMAH TERBUKA

1. Cara-cara untuk memasak dalam kuantiti yang banyak terutama jika kita hendak memasak nasi buat makan 50 orang. Ayam berapa ekor,daging berapa kilo. Jika memasak ayam atau daging okkah tidak memasak pada malamnya .sebelum majlis besoknya?


2. Secara amnya, terdapat beberapa faktor yg perlu diambilkira bila menyediakan jamuan yg melibatkan tetamu yg ramai. Biasanya orang-orang di kampung makan lebih banyak nasi dari orang-orang di bandar?

3. Contohnya, nasi utk orang kampung seramai 50 orang adalah 16 pot (tin susu beras yg kecil, lebihkurang 280 g = 1 pot) manakala utk orang bandar seramai 50 orang adalah 14 pot. Jika tetamu itu semuanya dewasa atau separuhnya kanak-kanak, puan perlu membuat perubahan yg perlu.

4. Jika purata 50 orang = 15 pot = 4.2 kg beras. Jika beras Basmathi (utk nasi beriani, nasi minyak, nasi tomato dll) perlu dilebihkan kerana berasnya tidak kembang seperti nasi biasa.

5. ANGGARAN UMUM 10 KILO BERASMATHI UNTUK 100 ORANG

6. Bagi ayam pula, bergantung pada saiznya. Lazimnya, utk membuat kari atau kurma, kita memotong seekor ayam menjadi 12 bahagian. Seandainya seorang mengambil satu bahagian, kita perlukan 4 1/2 atau 5 ekor. Perlu diperhatikan di sini, kari juga mempunyai kentang, tomato dll yg akan “menambah” lauk kari itu sendiri.

7. Untuk daging, terpulang pada berapa keping atau ketul yg dipotong. Selalunya, utk 50 orang, puan perlukan 3-4 kg daging. Untuk rendang, mungkin lebih sedikit. Dapatkan daging batang pinang yg mudah empuk. Jika memasak kurma atau kari, masukkan ubi kentang anggaran 2 kg.

8. Manakala bagi sayur, bergantung juga pada jenis resepinya. Selalunya, jikalau hendak membuat acar mentah (jelatah), gunakan 5 biji timun, 4 batang lobak merah dan 3 labu bawang besar. Semuanya adalah anggaran kerana sukar utk mendapatkan sukatan yg tepat (kecuali seseorang itu membuat perniagaan “catering”)

9. Jika ingin memasak ayam untuk Masak Merah, contohnya, adalah boleh menggorengnya terlebih dulu pada malamnya dan mengisar semua bahan yg diperlukan sebelum menumis keesokan paginya. Untuk kurma atau kari, boleh juga mengukus ayam yg dicampur sedikit garam dan diletak di dalam loyang (supaya airnya boleh terkumpul) pada malamnya sebelum dimasukkan ke dalam kuahnya (yg ditumis pagi hari). Daging untuk rendang lazimnya dimasak pada malamnya kerana ini akan membuat rendang itu lebih enak. Ini adalah sebagai panduan asas. Bila kita sudah seringkali menyediakan makanan utk tetamu yg ramai, dengan sendirinya akan menjadi lebih arif.

10. Usah terlalu risau jika makanan tidak mencukupi ,di nasihatkan agar menyediakan bahan asas membuat Mee/Bihun Goreng, contohnya, kerana jika tetamu datang lebih dari jangkaan (nasi/lauk habis cepat), kita berupaya menghidangkan Mee/Bihun Goreng dalam “sekelip mata.”


11. Di anggarkan 1 paket mee (500 g) adalah utk 5-6 orang dewasa (100 g seorang). Sila ambil kira jikalau ada makanan lain yg turut dihidangkan.



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Selamat Menjamu! :)

Monday, August 17, 2015

Next Project! : Art of Frame Hanging!

Happy Monday mommies!


Lets learn something today.
There is actually an art called the art of frame hanging! Yes. The visual art that sets your frames looking pleasant and nice to look at.

These were taken from pages in my FB feed. May it benefit me and you. Lets do some wall decorating this coming weekend! :)



The followings are for rectangles and squares.



Staircase :)




Frames in line (not same size)



Frames behind a seatee or sofa







Multiframes behind a sofa



Happy decorating! :)

Friday, August 14, 2015

Love is...




















and finally








Alhmdulillah..5yrs and counting.To the many many years to come .inshallah:)


Cute kan? Taken from facebook :)


Happy Friday peeps.
Its Syawal the 29th already! ;)

Thursday, August 13, 2015

Friday, July 31, 2015

Tazkirah Jumaat :) - 6 Perkara Yang Mendorong Seseorang Itu Mengumpat

6 Perkara Yang Mendorong Seseorang Itu Mengumpat Menurut Imam Al Ghazali

SIKAP suka mengumpat atau menceritakan keburukan dan kelemahan orang lain
dilaknat oleh Allah.Mereka yang bersikap demikian, secara disedari atau tidak mencela dan
mengaibkan orang lain yang hukumnya berdosa besar.

Ketika berbual, sama ada secara sengaja atau tidak, mereka menceritakan
keburukan ketuanya, jiran, saudara mara dan orang yang lalu di hadapan
mereka.

Firman Allah bermaksud: "Hai orang yang beriman, kalau datang kepada kamu
orang jahat membawa berita, periksalah dengan saksama supaya kamu jangan
sampai mencelakakan suatu kaum yang tidak diketahui, kemudian kamu menyesal
di atas perbuatanmu itu." (Surah al-Hujurat, ayat 6)

Sabda Rasulullah saw seperti yang diriwayatkan oleh Al-Thabrani daripada
Abu Hurairah bermaksud: "Yang paling dikasihi Allah antara kamu ialah mereka
yang baik akhlaknya, merendah diri, suka pada orang dan disukai orang. Dan
yang paling dimarahi Allah ialah mereka yang membawa fitnah, mencerai
beraikan di antara sesama saudara dan mencaci orang yang tidak bersalah."

Imam al-Ghazali ada menyebut enam perkara yang mendorong seseorang itu
mengumpat;

1. Ingin memuaskan hati disebabkan kemarahan yang memuncak hingga sanggup
mendedahkan keaiban dan kesalahan orang lain. Jika kemarahan tidak dapat
dikawal, ia boleh menimbulkan hasad dan dendam;

2. Suka mendengar dan mengikuti perbualan orang yang menyerang peribadi
dan kehormatan seseorang;

3. Mahu bersaing dan menonjolkan diri dengan menganggap orang lain bodoh
dan rendah;

4. Disebabkan dengki, dia iri hati dengan orang lain yang lebih beruntung
dan berjaya, seperti dinaikkan gaji dan pangkat;

5. Bergurau dan suka melawak untuk mencela dan mengatakan kelemahan dan
kecacatan hingga mengaibkan orang lain; dan

6. Sikap suka mengejek dan mencela disebabkan rasa bongkak dan sombong
kerana memandang rendah orang lain.

Sehubungan itu, Imam al-Ghazali menyarankan lima perkara untuk
menghentikan sikap suka mengumpat, antaranya ialah;

Harus sedar dan insaf mengumpat dan memburuk-burukkan orang lain itu
berdosa besar;

#Sedar dan membetulkan kesalahan sendiri daripada menyalahkan orang; dan
#Hendaklah berasa malu apabila memperli kecacatan orang lain. Ini kerana
mencela kecacatan fizikal seolah-olah mencerca Tuhan yang menciptakan.





Salam Jumaat :)
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Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Organization Behavior. Something to learn about from the prophet Muhammad SAW.

Assalam peeps

I took this subject long ago and management studies was always fun and interesting for me.
Maybe, time by time we need to be reminded and remind others as well.
I would really take my CIMB case as one of the examples. But let it wait as it is still unsettled on their side.
I have pledge a report to BNM just so others won't suffer the same incident as i did. Well, i chose to see the glass half full instead, and try to learn something from things happening around me.

Moga Allah permudahkan urusan kami.
Jom baca tambahkan pengetahuan :)


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Organization Behavior. Something to learn about from the prophet Muhammad SAW.

The Prophet Muhammad was reported to have said: “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock …” [Abu Dawud]As described in the hadith above, all of us are answerable to our subjects. As managers, we are shepherds too and are answerable in two ways: As a servant who is a guardian over the property of his master (the employer).As a caliph who is a shepherd over the people and shall be questioned about his subjects (the subordinates).This two-way balance is a tight rope to walk on, which often results in one of the two sides being offended. 

A manager who is productive leads his team to realize the vision of the organization that they all are a part of. He has to direct his sheep in the right direction, guarding them and not allowing them to go astray. On top of that, there may be ‘black sheep’ that he needs to identify and prevent from leading others astray.

Productive Team, Productive Manager

For a manager to be productive, he should have a productive team. However, that is not always possible since, in most cases, teams are composed of individuals with varied levels of qualifications and experience. It becomes imperative for a manager to groom his team members so they can fulfill their fullest potential. You are a manager because you are considered to be most qualified and experienced among your team members. Below are some of the qualities a manager should possess to make himself and his team more productive.

Lead by Example

Your team works under your guidance. At times when they are stuck, you need to roll up your sleeves and get involved to solve critical issues. While doing so, you should not be boasting your contribution or belittling theirs.The companions of the Holy Prophet were die-hard soldiers and never wanted any pain for him. Yet many a time, the Prophet joined them in digging trenches, toiling in the battle grounds and even in building Al-Masjid an-Nabawi brick by brick, ”… The Prophet himself started carrying unburnt bricks for its building …” [Bukhari]

You need to build your team, task by task, project by project. If there is something on which your team is at odds with you, but you know your decision to be correct, you need to persuade others.One of the ways to do this is to start doing the action yourself. They will automatically follow suit, In sha Allah.A similar thing happened when most of the companions did not agree with the concessions given to the opponents in the treaty of Hudaibiyya. They were reluctant to come out of the state of Ihram without performing the Umrah. The Holy Prophet continued with what he thought was right. He then “… slaughtered the sacrifice and called his barber who shaved his head. Seeing that, the companions of the Prophet got up, slaughtered their sacrifices, and started shaving the heads of one another …” [Bukhari]

Integrity is Better Than Intelligence

This is a management saying and generally applied by recruitment specialists who are faced with a trade-off between the intelligence and honesty of a candidate. Many of them prefer a honest candidate over an intelligent one.Managers can apply this concept to themselves too. Being intelligent is a part of your job because your position demands so, but you need to be honest while executing your affairs dealing with your subjects.

The Holy Prophet said: “Any man whom Allah has given the authority of ruling some people, and he does not look after them in an honest manner, will never feel even the smell of Paradise.” [Bukhari]

Be Just

As a manager, one of the biggest trials you may face is being just, especially in a multicultural, multilingual and multi-ethnic environment. Personal likes and dislikes based on these factors tend to creep in while making decisions affecting the team, preventing them to be well-knitted. If two or more members are at odds with one another and you are required to be a judge, you must be just. Favoring a member over the other based on your personal preference causes resentments within the team and you will also lose respect.

The Holy Qur’an asks us to be just: “O you who have believed, be persistently standing firm for Allah, witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just; that is nearer to righteousness. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is acquainted with what you do.” [Qur’an: Chapter 5, Verse 8]

There are numerous narrations of the Holy Prophet delivering just verdicts, no matter the person’s background or religion. In one such incident, the Prophet relied on the oath of a defendant Jew even though the claimant was a Muslim because the latter lacked evidence to prove his claim. The dispute between Ash’ath bin Qais and a Jewish man is detailed in Sunan Ibn Majah.

Be Cheerful

If your absence makes people cheerful and your entrance brings silence in the office, you are an authoritarian manager and not a lenient one.The Holy Prophet told Aisha : “… be lenient, for leniency makes a thing decorated and when it is removed from a thing it makes it defective.” [Abu Dawud]

Also Mu’adh was advised by the Holy Prophet while being sent to Yemen on a mission: “Show leniency (to the people); don’t be hard upon them; give them glad tidings; and do not create aversion. Work in collaboration and don’t be divided.” [Muslim]

Being friendly and cheerful with your subordinates makes them feel comfortable. Creating a friendly atmosphere is a way to invite their ideas, whereas a restricted environment prevents them from sharing their ideas. The Holy Prophet said: “Do not belittle any good deed, even meeting your brother (Muslim) with a cheerful face.” [Muslim] 

Avoid using harsh words since “Allah is Gentle and loves gentleness, and He grants reward for it that He does not grant for harshness.” [Ibn Majah]

Be a Mentor

Your success as a manager depends on the strength of your team. To make your team strong, you have to be a mentor. Organize training and workshops for them depending on their job function, then meet them regularly to provide some insights on what you have gained through your overall experience. 
Let them have a feeling of ‘growing together’.

Be Flexible

If your organization allows, you may also try flexible working hours for your workers. Flexibility in working hours sometime enables them to fulfill their household duties too, like dropping or picking kids to or from school, or attending to an ailing loved one. If required to work at odd hours, taking advantage of information technology, you may also consider allowing a member to work from home. This is definitely a possible option since we live in an age where a person can connect to his office network from his home computer.

Focus on Issues at Hand

Keeping yourself focused on the task at hand leads to better management and quicker delivery. Make your meetings conclusive by discussing and deliberating only the purpose of the meeting. Do not let your attention divert from the topic and remind others to stick to the agenda. If any other topic comes up, politely ask them to keep it aside for a separate discussion. This will not only keep you focused on one task at a time, but your colleagues’ time will be better utilized too. Once you have finished the meeting, write the minutes and circulate among the stakeholders what you have discussed and decided. Even if the meeting was inconclusive, it is better to write and circulate the minutes so the attendees can recall what you already discussed and what needs to be discussed during the next meeting.



Consultation and Participation

When the Makkan army marched towards Madinah, the Prophet wanted to defend Madinah from within. But it was the suggestion of some companions, most of them in their youth, to go out and fight. He agreed to their advice and thus the historic battle at Uhud took place.As a manager, you must consult your team and invite the participation of the younger members as well. This serves as a big motivation and generates a sense of involvement of even the less experienced ones. Decisions based on consultations often yield productive results. The Quran also emphasizes on consultation: “… and consult them in the matter…” [Qur’an: Chapter 3, Verse 159]



Convince, not Confuse

You do not have to adopt the “If not convinced, confuse” theory. If you do, you are bound to lose trust among your team and co-workers. If someone comes to you with his problem, he comes with a hope of getting a solution from you. You need to address his concerns rather than using jugglery of words and making the situation confusing and worse for him.Moreover, confusing someone deliberately is akin to misguiding him. Keep things simple and explanation clear. If they are not convinced, try different means of communication to explain, such as explaining through writing, or a graphical display, or any other form of presentation.

Trust Your Team

Adopt a non-interference doctrine once you have assigned a task to your team. Frequent follow-up bugs them ( yeah, i have a boss who does this ;p). The individuals in the team will then try to finish off the tasks ‘quickly anyhow’, rather than completing correctly and efficiently. Give them some breathing space and let them be on their own to perform, unless you see something going wrong or your interference is extremely necessary. Instead, design a follow-up meeting schedule to review their progress on the tasks.



Rotate Tasks

Adopt a policy of ‘cyclic rotation’ of tasks if there are more members in the team and adopt the ‘hand-shake’ method when exchanging tasks between two members. Performing the same task daily makes it monotonous for them. Newer assignments provides them with an opportunity to learn something new, making them more interested in their jobs. Different ideas from different individual adds value to the way certain tasks are being done. One of the benefits of exchanging and rotating tasks is that you are not left limping with an unexpected resignation or temporary unavailability of a member who was handling critical tasks of which nobody else is aware. Maintaining your team as a unit ensures greater productivity. Building a team is a managerial skill, but it can be considered an act of virtue too in light of how the Holy Prophet joined the emigrants and the ansar together as brothers for a mission. 

When an employee leaves, the manager also needs to self-reflect. As many management experts say, “The employee does not leave an organization, he leaves the manager.”





Love,

Mommy Zahra
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Thursday, April 10, 2014

Care2share - What is tongue tie (ankyloglossia)?



It happened that i came across one of my friends, who was having problems to breastfeed her newborn. She suspected it was caused by her son's tongue-tie condition. Mashallah, i never heard this before so lets explore and share. I hope so much that my babies will all be healthy and born perfect. (T-T)

This was extracted from baby center.




Tongue-tie

Tongue-tie (ankyloglossia) happens when the string of tissue under your baby's tongue (frenulum), which attaches her tongue to the floor of her mouth, is too short. If your baby has tongue-tie, her tongue can't move freely, and this can cause problems. If your baby has mild tongue-tie, it may not affect her. But if she has severe tongue-tie, her tongue may almost fuse to the bottom of her mouth. 





Doctors differ in the way they diagnose tongue-tie, especially in mild cases, so it's difficult to know how common it is. Some studies show that about four per cent of babies have tongue-tie, while others claim that it affects about 11 per cent. There is no evidence that tongue-tie is something that babies inherit.



How can I tell if my baby has tongue-tie?

Your baby may be diagnosed with tongue-tie during her first routine check. Your midwife will put her finger in your baby's mouth to check the roof of her mouth and her tongue. But tongue-tie is not always easy to spot. It may not be found until later, for example, if your baby has feeding problems. If you and your baby are finding breastfeeding difficult, ask your midwife, health visitor or doctor to check for tongue-tie.

Breastfeeding isn't easy for every mum, and if you're finding it hard-going, it may not be anything to do with tongue-tie. Talk to your community midwife, or ask to be referred to a breastfeeding specialist, so you can get the help and advice you need.


How does tongue-tie affect feeding?

If your baby has mild tongue-tie, she may not have any feeding problems at all. But if her tongue can't move freely, she may:

  • have trouble latching on
  • slip off your breast while feeding
  • not gain weight as expected

If your baby is struggling to feed because of tongue-tie, you may have sore, painful nipples, which may make you both feel frustrated. Babies who are bottle-fed and who have tongue-tie occasionally have trouble with making a good seal around the bottle teat. This may mean that the milk leaks, and your baby may suffer from wind due to swallowing air.


Will tongue-tie affect my child's speech development?

Tongue-tie is sometimes blamed for speech problems, and this is often why surgery is recommended.
In one small study, having a minor operation did improve children's speech problems. However, there isn't enough evidence to prove that there is a link.


How is tongue-tie treated?

The treatment for tongue-tie is a straightforward operation called a frenulotomy. A doctor or specially-trained midwife puts a snip in the string at the base of the tongue (the frenulum).

In young babies, this snip is often done after just numbing the area. It shouldn't cause your baby any pain, and if she's very young, she may even sleep through it. If your baby is older, she may need to have a general anaesthetic, and the operation could be more complex. Not all experts believe that babies and children with tongue-tie need treatment. Some experts say that it is often unnecessary, and can cause side-effects, such as bleeding and infection.

Some babies may be fine without the procedure. However, guidelines say that frenulotomy is safe for young babies and that it could help with breastfeeding problems, which often disappear straight away after the treatment.

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this might be lame but i only know what APGAR score means today..hehehehe
Both my boys scored 9/10. But i was quite sure i wanted to ask, but then forgot.
Until today. kikikiki


Just wondering with mommies who homebirth, the daddy or birth midwife should know how to do the score :)

Thursday, January 10, 2013

Kesilapan dlm Mendidik Anak : 15 of them

Among my MUST do 2013 resolution list (yang tak siap2 lagi nih...iiisssshhhhh..) ialah to be a better parent.
A better mommy and a fun one too.. 
So as i just got this from hubby, i just would love to share it with you today~

May all of us be better parents of tomorrows leaders.
Inshallah~




1. Kesilapan pertama: Kurang Berdoa
Kurang berdoa semasa mengandung. Antara doa-doa yang digalakkan diamalkan semasa mengandung ialah
* Saidul (penghulu) istighfar
* Doa memohon rahmat (Al-Quran Surah Ali ‘Imran, 3:8-9)
* Doa memohon zuriat yang baik (Al-Quran Surah Ali ‘Imran, 3:38)
* Doa agar anak mengerjakan solat ((Al-Quran Surah Ibrahim, 14:40-41)

 
Kurang berdoa semasa membesarkan anak. Doa-doa yang digalakkan diamalkan semasa anak membesar ialah
* Doa agar anak patuh kepada Allah s.w.t (Al-Quran Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:128)
* Doa diberi zuriat yang menyejukkan hati (Al-Quran Surah Al-Fuqan, 25:74)
* Doa supaya nama anak membawa kebaikan kepadanya.

2. Kesilapan kedua: Banyak membaeri belaian Tarhib (menakutkan) daripada Targhib (didikan atau motivasi) seperti:
* menakutkan anak-anak dengan sekolah
* menakutkan dengan tempat gelap
* menakutkan dengan hutan rimba atau bukit bukau
* menggunakan kekerasan dan paksaan semasa menyuruh anak tidur.

3. Kesilapan ketiga: Tidak tegas dalam mendidik anak-anak
* Tidak menjadualkan kegiatan harian anak-anak
* Terlalu memfokuskan anak-anak kepada sesuatu aktiviti sahaja tanpa mengambil kira perasaan mereka.

4. Kesilapan keempat: Menegur mereka secara negatif
* Mengeluarkan kata-kata kesat dan maki hamun kepada anak-anak (terutama semasa marah)
* Membandingkan anak-anak dengan anak-anak lain atau anak orang lain.

5. Kesilapan kelima: Memberi didikan yang tidak seimbang antara jasmani (physical), rohani (spiritual) dan minda (intelektual)
* Ramai yang lebih mementingkan pendidikan minda dari pendidikan rohani.

6. Kesilapan keenam: Kurang memberi sentuhan kepada semua anak-anak
* Sedangkan Rasulullah kerap dilihat mendukung cucu-cucunya dan mencium mereka. Diriwayatkan oleh Aisyah r.a.: Pada suatu hari Rasulullah SAW mencium Al-Hassan atau Al-Hussien bin Ali r.a. Ketika itu Aqra’ bin Habis At-Tamimy sedang berada di rumah baginda. Berkata Aqra’: “Ya Rasulullah! Aku mempunyai sepuluh orang anak, tetapi aku belum pernah mencium seorang pun daripada mereka.” Rasulullah melihat kepada Aqra’ kemudian berkata: “Siapa yang tidak mengasihi tidak akan dikasihi.”
(Maksud Al-Hadith Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim)

7. Kesilapan ketujuh: Penampilan diri yang kurang anggun dan kurang kemas
* Ibu bapa tidak menunjukkan cara berpakaian yang kemas dan yang menepati syarak bile berada di rumah, iaitu berpakaian secara selekeh atau berpakaian seksi di hadapan anak-anak.

8. Kesilapan kelapan: Susunan rumahtangga yang tidak kemas
* Ini mengakibatkan anak-anak terikut-ikut dengan cara itu dan membesar menjadi pemalas dan selekeh.

9. Kesilapan kesembilan: Kurang menghidupkan sunnah di rumah
* Seperti memberi salam, makan berjemaah, beribadah bersama-sama dan sebagainya. Dalam menjawab salam, lazimkanlah menjawab salam dengan yang lebih baik dari salam yang diberi.

10. Kesilapan kesepuluh: Tidak menggantungkan rotan di tempat yang mudah dilihat oleh anak-anak
* Dalam Islam, merotan anak dengan tujuan mendidik adalah satu Sunnah.

11. Kesilapan kesebelas: Kurang mendedahkan anak-anak dengan model yang cemerlang
* Seperti para ulama’ dan orang-orang yang berhemah tinggi dan berakhlak mulia. Anak-anak juga patut didedahkan dengan sembahyang jemaah, kuliah agama dan aktiviti-aktivi yang bersesuaian dengan akhlak Islam.

12. Kesilapan keduabelas: Berrtengkar di depan anak-anak
* Ini akan menyebabkan anak-anak rasa tertekan dan membenci salah seorang dari ibu bapanya.

13. Kesilapan ketigabelas: Membenarkan orang yang tidak elok sahsiahnya masuk ke dalam rumah
* Samada dari kalangan sahabat sendiri ataupun sahabat anak-anak, kerana ini akan memberikan contoh yang tidak baik kepada anak-anak yang sedang membesar.

14. Kesilapan keempatbelas: Kurang mengawasi rancangan-rancangan yang ditonton
* Samada dari TV ataupun video. Pengawasan dalam hal ini adalah penting kerana kebanyakan rancangn dari media ini menonjolkan akhlak yang kurang baik seperti pergaulan bebas lelaki dan perempuan, pakaian yang tidak menepati syarak dan perbualan yang boleh merosakkan agama anak-anak.

15. Kesilapan kelimabelas: Terlalu bergantung kepada pembantu rumah untuk mendidik anak-anak
* Sebagai ibu bapa kitalah yang akan disoal di akhirat kelak akan anak-anak ini. Oleh itu adalah menjadi satu kepentingan kita untuk berusaha memastikan anak-anak terdidik dengan didikan Islam.
“Harta benda dan anak-anak kamu hanyalah menjadi ujian dan di sisi ALLAH ada pahala yang besar.”
(Al-Quran Surah At-Taghabun, 64:15)

Monday, October 8, 2012

Tips of the day : With kids ;)


Loved these tips the most :)

Pretend:
29. To catch their kiss and put it on your cheek.
30. That their tickle tank is empty and you have to fill it.
31. That their high five is so powerful it nearly knocks you over.
32. That you are super ticklish.
33. That you are explorers in the amazing new world of your backyard.
34. That it’s party day!  Decorate for no reason!
Try:
35. To get enough sleep.
36. To drink enough water.
37. To eat decent food.
38. Wearing earrings, or whatever makes you feel pretty.
39. Calling a friend the next time you feel like you are about to lose it with the kids.
40. Giving a gentle touch to show approval, rather than saying something.
41. Dancing in the kitchen.
42. To get your kids to bop to the music with you in the car.
43. Showing your kids that you can do a somersault or handstand or a cartwheel.
44. Keeping that sigh to yourself.  Just jump in and help clean up cheerfully.
45. Using a kind voice, even if you have to fake it.

Thursday, May 17, 2012

38th week check-up : Putrajaya Hospital

Salam.

Selamat hari khamis everybody.

Ok.Iman dah OK.Smlm dh discharged at 10am :)
Cerita keluar hospital masuk hospital ajelah skrg ni kan :P

So kita cerita hospital lagi.Time ni turn cerita mommy pulak :)
And on the final mth of pregnancy - mmg check-up akan jd every week.
So today's check-up was the first in Putrajaya Hospital.
Appointment dpt last week to come at 9am today. So there i was. 8.30 sharp.30mins before appointment.
And was surprisingly it was very short!! 1hr dh siap semua. Came at 8.30 - siap check-up 9.30-ish cmtu.
And yet, I'm not under FPP yer..

Last year..minimum waiting hours would be 2.5 hrs tau.

And I got everything la..detailed scanning.
Jumpa Dr Hamidah the specialist there.
And the payment? RM5. hehehe~

Congrats KKM for the improvement :) Thank you for the improvement! You definitely made my day.
No more long waiting hours as per last year. And yet, today is Thursday.
Where Tuesdays and Thursdays are normal O&G clinic days :)
Orang ramai tau.tp doctors pun ramai.
Baguslah tu.balance.


And for me :

Berat turun 1kg. Pelik juga. Hmm..maybe penat jaga Iman.
Baby dh 3.2kg. nmpak peha2 nya yg tembam tu.
BP- 130/80 tinggi sket.
Urine clear.








And..











And...







...kena admit hospital juga this monday kalau xbersalin lagi by weekend. OMG!!~

Sebab -
(i) baby dh besar and engaged.If tunggu another 2wks.Baby could reach 4kg. Yeke??
(ii) too lil spacing gap between baby 1 and 2.Hi risk for scar dehiscence <-- new word for me today!!
(iii) history of late onset PIH. wpn yg kali ni xde hi BP.

Most probably will undergo another LSCS. Hmm..
Tp sy redha dgn ketentuan tuhan.
Anything for my babies. As long as they are born healthy and strong.

Or should i seek for a second opinion?

Bleh je I opt for no-show on this Monday.
MIA.
tggu smp nak bersalin baru nk munculkan diri kat labour room. Ada berani tanggung risk??


Tp what if dh week 41 tp baby xde langsung tanda2 nk kua.tup tup check heart beat dh xde.Nauzubillah. Menangis air mata darah skali pun time tu dh xguna kan?



Or another situation, contraction kuat sgt smp scar dehiscence tu berlaku kat umah. Or uterine rupture tu berlaku dlm kereta menuju ke hospital. Patut buka kat bwhm tp buka kat tempat belahan pertama plaks. Eh, bleh ke cmtu?
Ha cmno plak tu?Xdapek den nk bayangkan..mmg la percentage utk scar dehiscense ni 0.5% aje.but what if Im in the unlucky ones.huhu (--") ~

Nauzubillah~

Credits


My clerk's wifey dh ikat pn still boleh conceive. She was one of the lucky ones in the 1% of conceiving possibilities bila dh ikat fallopian tube. Bila Allah kata kun fa ya kun apa pun bleh jadi. Tiada yg mustahil kan?



Hmm..in dilemma now. Dahlah monday ni birthday hubby and 28th ni our annivrsary..xdapek lah nk smbut meriah meriah. dlm hospital aje la jawapnyerr..

Memandai mandai je kan..? OK lah, sy akan serahkan pada yg pakar.
Ikutkan ajer.

And on the same time-pray bersalin before 21st (Monday) ni for a normal delivery.
Second option yg mudah. If only God wills.




Mudah-mudahan Allah permudahkan segala urusan ku.Permudahkan aku bersalin kan putera ku kali ini.
Amin.






Pray for me friends :)
Tak sabar sebenarnya nk jumpe si adik ni..








Love

Zahra

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Word-Less Wednesday : Do you know?




* There are some doubts though.Studying through this diagram you'll find that your uncle (the person whom you mom's or dad's sister married) is not your mahram. Mm..I've been salaming my uncles for ages..yelah paklong, paknjang, pakngah semua tu..

Kena kaji labih ni.sumber internet is not the main source.sedangkan ramai perawi hadis pun ditolak hadisnya and categorized as hadis dhaif..inikan pula internet..hmm..

Let's find out together.

Happy Wednesday ladies!~


Love,

Zahra.

**Zombie mode today cause Iman refuses to sleep on his matress..and wakes up every 2hrs setelah diturunkan. so katil adalah cramping!~

Thursday, April 26, 2012

Jom Bertafsir Surah Sikit pagi2 ni :: Hutang

[282] Al Baqarah 

Wahai orang-orang yang beriman! Apabila kamu menjalankan sesuatu urusan dengan hutang piutang yang diberi tempoh hingga ke suatu masa yang tertentu maka hendaklah kamu menulis (hutang dan masa bayarannya) itu dan hendaklah seorang penulis di antara kamu menulisnya dengan adil (benar) dan janganlah seseorang penulis enggan menulis sebagaimana Allah telah mengajarkannya. Oleh itu, hendaklah ia menulis dan hendaklah orang yang berhutang itu merencanakan (isi surat hutang itu dengan jelas). Dan hendaklah ia bertaqwa kepada Allah Tuhannya, dan janganlah ia mengurangkan sesuatu pun dari hutang itu. 

Kemudian jika orang yang berhutang itu bodoh atau lemah atau ia sendiri tidak dapat hendak merencanakan (isi itu), maka hendaklah direncanakan oleh walinya dengan adil benar); dan hendaklah kamu mengadakan dua orang saksi lelaki dari kalangan kamu. 

Kemudian kalau tidak ada saksi dua orang lelaki, maka bolehlah, seorang lelaki dan dua orang perempuan dari orang-orang yang kamu setujui menjadi saksi, supaya jika yang seorang lupa dari saksi-saksi perempuan yang berdua itu maka dapat diingatkan oleh yang seorang lagi. Dan jangan saksi-saksi itu enggan apabila mereka dipanggil menjadi saksi. 

Dan janganlah kamu jemu menulis perkara hutang yang bertempoh masanya itu, sama ada kecil atau besar jumlahnya. Yang demikian itu, lebih adil di sisi Allah dan lebih membetulkan (menguatkan) keterangan saksi, dan juga lebih hampir kepada tidak menimbulkan keraguan kamu. Kecuali perkara itu mengenai perniagaan tunai yang kamu edarkan sesama sendiri, maka tiadalah salah jika kamu tidak menulisnya. Dan adakanlah saksi apabila kamu berjual-beli. Dan janganlah mana-mana jurutulis dan saksi itu disusahkan. 

Dan kalau kamu melakukan (apa yang dilarang itu), maka sesungguhnya yang demikian adalah perbuatan fasik (derhaka) yang ada pada kamu. Oleh itu hendaklah kamu bertaqwa kepada Allah; dan (ingatlah), Allah (dengan keterangan ini) mengajar kamu; dan Allah sentiasa Mengetahui akan tiap-tiap sesuatu.


Lesson of the day : 

Kalau dh berhutang..bayarla. Xkira lah PTPTN ke, hutang dgn bank ke, credit card ke, kereta ke,Courts Mommoth ke..hatta adik sendiri pun :) Jgn berdolak dalih. 


Doa jauhi hutang :: Ayat dr doa ma'thurat :)


“Ya Allah aku berlindung dari kesusahan dan kedukaan, dari lemah kemahuan dan rasa malas, dari sifat pengecut dan bakhil, dari banyak hutang dan kezaliman manusia.”


Selamat berhari Khamis!~
Love,


Zahra :)

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