Three little handsome guys

Salam Jumaat :)

Terasa pagi ni nak tulis pasal 3budak banyak akal ni. Lama tak cerita pasal diorg. Jom baca sama sama..

ZULHADZREY IMAN- 6y and a half

A young man already alhamdulillah. Lama tak tulis pasal iman. Dah besar panjang dah iman skrg, tinggi~ Gigi kekal pun dah 4btg tumbuh! Kalau kat sekolah iman mmg laju je menolong teachers and dah byk kali jd imam solat jemaah kwn kwn solat zuhur n asar. Kuat merajuk, berang orgnya tp mmg lembut juga hatinya. Kalau ada apa apa dialah yang pertama tau and terasa. Oh satu lagi -penakut hantu hihihi. 

Dari segi akademik, alhmdulillah exam aritu nmpk byk sgt improvements dia. Subject dia plg suka - Maths dia dpt 100% :) Yang plg lemah English, mmg susah sikit nmpk dia nk kuasai english wlpun mommy dh byk sogokkan dgn buku buku bacaan including buku buku Dr Suess :) Kalau bab membaca n iqra' mmg nombor 1. suka sgt buku and menulis-yg ni mommy suka. Tp suka juga menyepah buku buku nya.

Sekarang dh besar sikit mommy dh boleh harap dia buat mcm2 simple chores kat rumah mcm angkat kain, angkat laundry, angkat begs dari atas turun bwh, dr bwh naik atas..angkat adik mikhail. haha semua task mengangkat saja ekk.. well, mmg itulah yg dia suka, sebab iman ni kuat n muscular build dia. mmg kuat ok. kalau tendang bola mmg kuat betul terkejut org tgk kekuatan luarbiasa anak no 1 mommy ni. biarlah kuat.rsnya allah dh tulis, tugas iman nanti dh besar n sado tolong angkat mommy yg xxL ni masa tua nanti..hahaha.

Anak soleh ni satu lg suka makan. Masyallah..kejap kejap lapar, kejap kejap buka fridge. so mommy mmg akan belikan foodies utk dia snacking mcm kacang, raisins(fav dia!), pisang, roti and biscuits khas utk iman snacking :) Nasi mmg byk 7.30am kalau weekends dh mintok nasi..baka kelantam sgt awok ni abe weyy :)

Kesayangan mommy ni. Wpn skrg mommy cium dia lap balik.cettt.. lol

ZULHAFIDZEY AMSYAR- 5y 3months

Cerita pasal abgngah pula. Abg amsyar muka kiut ala ala jambu ni..haha.. Tp looks mmg is deceiving sebab amsyar ni plg cunning and byk idea idea yg out of the box..muka innocent tapi mcm mcm. budak byk akal ni. Tahun ni amsyar dah 5tahun.Tp sebab dia dah habis semua buku bacaan yg patutnya umur dia mula tahun lepas lg, tahun ni dia byk focus on English and maths sahaja. Peminat maths juga ni, dpt 100% mid term aritu sama macam mommy suka numbers. 

Bab makan amsyar lah paling payah sekali! Sayur mmg tak makan langsung!Urgh! Geram betul mommy dibuatnya! Mee, spagetti mmg laju ja..tp spagetti sahaja,macaroni xsuka! And satu lagi suka suruh mommy masak kari ayam! Laju je dia makan nasi,,tp dgn kuah kari sahaja..ayamnya xmakan! (--")  Peminat no 1 ayam goreng mcD and drumstick hot n spicy kfc, and kalau burgers sekarang mmg kena order satu utk dia..dia boleh habiskan! bab fast food kids mmg suka kann adoi. Tp one thing yang bagus bab makan ni..amsyar mmg hantu buah buahan..fruits apa saja. Especially pisang! Ni mmg faveret dialah! In fact faveret semua ahli rumah ni incl daddy! aiyaaa.. :)

Amsyar ni kalau bab menolong mommy, dia lemah sikit. Lambat je kalau suruh buat apa apa..kadang mommy tau dia sengaja je..sebab dia tau nanti mommy yg krg sabar ni suruh pula iman benda yg dia tak buat tuu..ooo pandai yee.. kalau dia buat apa apa mesti nak berupah.selalunya minta hp mommy lah.nak main games..habis mak nenek games dia install kan kat hp mommy.pandai dia g cari kat google playstore. yelah bebudak skrg ni kann xyah ajar dh pandai bab bab gajet ni. 

Walau macam mana pun amsyar mmg manja org nya..tgk tv nak melentok peluk mommy..nak tidur atas lengan mommy. Kalau kena marah mmg kuat sentap, tp senang pujuk dia dah ok. senanglah sikit nk memujuknya. merajuk kejap je,,kita slow talk dia dh ok balik. Moga terus mcm tulah nak ye..kurangkan bab yg kuat sentap tu je..

Amsyar ni pun satu lagi, mmg kuat pegang apa teacher dia ckp kat dia..aritu kat meja mkn dia ckp, allah ada dlm hati kita, dekat je dgn kita dia nampak apa kita buat semua. kalau kita buat org, allah akan balas kat kita.. alhmdulillah nak. pegang yang ni ya..mommy mmg suka. bukan mommy akan ada sentiasa nak jaga. tp inshallah Allah ada. ada kat mana mana. yang penting ada dlm hati kita. amin!

ZULHAYQAL MIKHAIL- 10months young :)

Mikhail!!! Yang ni mmg sweet cutie pie mommy. Mat senyum penawar hati mommy ni. Kecik cilik lg wangi lagi mmg lah penawar hati ye takk :p Dah pandai jalan at 9.5months lagi which buatkan mommy rasa cepat je phase baby berlalu..aduhai syg dont grow up too fast!

Mikhail baru je masuk phase yg taknak berenggang tu. Ataupun seperation anxiety..which is..aduhailah anakku sayang! Mmg mommy xboleh buat apa apa and xboleh g mana mana out of his sight! Dia punya meraung macam org cubit cubit siap teran buat buat nak muntah ok..well, this too shall pass org putih kata. sabar jelah kann mommy!! These days mmg daddy dah tak kerja weekend so selamat lah juga mommy weekends tak kena hadap adik mikhail sorang sorang :)

Mikhail ni satu lagi mmg pembawa rezeki utk mommy and daddy sefamily. Alhmdulillah. Daddy pun dpt penilaian paling top this year, dgn mommy pun mmg slalu dpt susu yg cukup saja utk mikhail tanpa perlu boosters itu ini dah sgt sgt bersyukur dh. Baju baju pun sentiasa tak putus kawan kawan, atuk nenek and aunties bagi je kat mikhail so byk jimat duit mommy dlm menjaga mikhail sorg ni.Alhmdulillahhhhh~

Sekarang ni mikhail ada dua batang gigi bawah baru. dah jadi lil piranha bergigi tajam..aduiii ngilu bila menaip nya pun ni..hahaha. ckp pun dh pandai juga skrg few words..daddy, mommy mmg dah master.. yang baru blajar skrg -eh ehhhh, and nak nak nak..hahaha..comel je. xsalah kan claim anak sendiri comel..lol.

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Ok tu jelah utk harini. Nanti kita tulis tulis lagi yekk~

Esok cuti!~

Happy weekends uols! Mommy xsabar nk berwiken ni..Yay!

love,

mommy z

Mother's Day 2016 - Oh this is why May is so wonderful!

The perks of being a mom! :)

This year i got flowers from my boysss...

Awwww..kisses for both of you. May you grow up to be as sweet as you are now to the ones you love :) Well, no girlfriends until 30 ok boys ?!

Our day : For mother's day just chilling out at home. I let them mess the house while mommy finishes 1 novel with a cuppa latte :)

And later that night, just a mother's day dinner at Polperro Shah Alam. Nice choice daddy! Thanks for the treat!

Ten ways to build your child's self-esteem :)

Nice article that might be useful for me and also for you :)

From babycenter.

Nurturing your child's self-esteem may seem like a hefty responsibility. After all, a feeling of self-worth lays the foundation for your child's future as he sets out to try new things on his own.

"Self-esteem comes from having a sense of belonging, believing that we're capable, and knowing our contributions are valued and worthwhile," says family therapist Jane Nelsen, coauthor of the Positive Discipline series.

"As any parent knows, self-esteem is a fleeting experience," says Nelsen. "Sometimes we feel good about ourselves and sometimes we don't. What we are really trying to teach our kids are life skills like resiliency."

Your goal as a parent is to ensure that your child develops pride and self-respect – in himself and in his cultural roots – as well as faith in his ability to handle life's challenges (for a school-age child that may mean giving a dance performance for you).

Here are ten simple strategies to help boost your child's self-esteem:

1. Give unconditional love (cinta tanpa syarat)

 A child's self-esteem flourishes with the kind of no-strings-attached devotion that says, "I love you, no matter who you are or what you do." Your child benefits the most when you accept her for who she is regardless of her strengths, difficulties, temperament, or abilities.So, lavish her with love. Give her plenty of cuddles, kisses, and pats on the shoulder. And don't forget to tell her how much you love her.

When you do have to correct your child, make it clear that it's her behavior – not her – that's unacceptable. For instance, instead of saying, "You're so naughty! Why can't you be good?" say, "Please don't throw the ball in the house. A ball is an outside toy."

2. Pay attention (beri perhatian). 

Carve out time to give your child your undivided attention. That does wonders for your child's feelings of self-worth because it sends the message that you think he's important and valuable.It doesn't have to take a lot of time. It just means taking a moment to stop flipping through the mail if he's trying to talk with you or putting aside your smartphone long enough to answer a question (daddy hope ur reading this and stop ur coco crush game ;p).

Make eye contact so it's clear that you're really listening to what he's saying. When you're strapped for time, let your child know it without ignoring his needs. Say, "Tell me all about what happened at soccer practice. When you're finished, I need to make our dinner."

3 Teach limits.

Establish a few reasonable, consistent rules for your child. For instance, if you tell her to wear her helmet when she rides her bike in the driveway, don't let her go without it at her friend's house. And if she breaks a rule, be sure she knows what the consequence is beforehand. ("If you don't wear your bike helmet, you don't get to ride your bike.") Knowing that certain family rules are set in stone helps her feel more secure. She'll start to live by your expectations soon enough. Just be clear and consistent and show her that you trust her and expect her to do the right thing.

4. Support healthy risks. 

Encourage your child to explore something new, such as trying a different food, making a new friend, or riding a skateboard. Activities that promote cooperation rather than competition, like mentoring programs or volunteering, are especially helpful in building self-esteem. Though there's always the possibility of failure, without risk there's little opportunity for success.

So let your child safely experiment, and resist the urge to intervene. For instance, try not to "rescue" him the minute he's showing mild frustration at figuring out how to read a tricky word. Jumping in to say, "I'll do it" can foster dependence and diminish your child's confidence. You'll build his self-esteem by balancing your need to protect him with his need to tackle new tasks.

5. Let mistakes happen. 

The flip side, of course, of having choices and taking risks is that sometimes your child is bound to make mistakes. These are valuable lessons for your child's confidence.

So if your child misses the school bus because she was dawdling in his bedroom, encourage her to think about what she might do differently next time. That way her self-esteem won't sag and she'll understand that it's okay to make mistakes sometimes.

When you goof up yourself, admit it, says Daniel Meier, assistant professor of elementary education at San Francisco State University. Acknowledging and recovering from your mistakes sends a powerful message to your child – it makes it easier for your child to accept his own difficulties.

Self reminder : Let it happen but don't nag!

6. Celebrate the positive.(I like this one!)

Everyone responds well to encouragement, so make an effort to acknowledge the good things your child does every day within his earshot. For instance, tell his dad, "Peter did all his chores today without prompting." He'll get to bask in the glow of your praise and his dad's heartening response.

And be specific. Instead of saying "Good job," say, "Thank you for setting the table for dinner." This will enhance his sense of accomplishment and self-worth and let him know exactly what he did right.

7. Listen well. 

If your child needs to talk, stop and listen to what she has to say. She needs to know that her thoughts, feelings, desires, and opinions matter.

Help her get comfortable with her emotions by labeling them. Say, "I understand you're sad because you can't go to the sleepover." By accepting her emotions without judgment, you validate her feelings and show that you value what she has to say.

If you share your own feelings ("I'm worried about Grandma. She's very sick."), she'll gain confidence in expressing his own.

Mine would be - Iman sedih ye nak mkn aiskrim daddy tak bagi. Jangan sedih. Cuba tanya daddy kenapa tak boleh.

8. Resist comparisons.

 Comments such as "Why can't you be more like your brother?" or "Why can't you be nice like Evan?" just remind your child of where he struggles in a way that fosters shame, envy, and competition. Even positive comparisons, such as "You're the best player," are potentially damaging because a child can find it hard to live up to this image.

If you let your child know that you appreciate him for the unique individual he is, he'll be more likely to value himself too.

9. Offer empathy and redirect inaccurate beliefs. 

If your child compares himself unfavorably to his siblings or peers ("Why can't I throw a football like Nicholas?"), show him empathy and then emphasize one of his strengths. For instance, say, "You're right. Nicholas is good at throwing a football. And you're a fast runner."

And if he goes into a tailspin of negativity and self-doubt ("I can't do math. I'm a bad student."), help him see things in a more realistic light. Say something like, "You are a good student, you just have trouble with math. Let's work on it together and see if we can figure it out."

This can help your child learn that we all have strengths and weaknesses, and that he doesn't have to be perfect to feel good about himself. But if you're concerned that something deeper may be at play, ask your child more detailed questions about school, friends, and how he views himself. You might decide it's best to talk to a counselor or mental health specialist.

10. Provide encouragement. 

Every child needs the kind of support from loved ones that signals, "I believe in you. I see your effort. Keep going!" Encouragement means acknowledging progress – not just rewarding achievement. So if your child is struggling with a math problem, say: "You're trying very hard and you almost have it!" instead of "Not like that. Let me do it."

There's a difference between praise and encouragement. One rewards the task while the other rewards the person ("You did it!" rather than "I'm proud of you!").

Praise can make a child feel that she's only "good" if she does something perfectly. Encouragement, on the other hand, acknowledges the effort. "Tell me about the game. I saw you really hustling out there" is more helpful than saying, "You're the best player on the team."

Too much praise can sap self-esteem because it can create pressure to perform and set up a continual need for approval from others. Give your child the message that the effort – and seeing something through to the end – is what's important.

So dole out the praise judiciously and offer encouragement liberally. That will help your child grow up to feel good about herself.

Xoxo

Zahra