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13 Ways You Know You’re Dating A High-Quality Woman

ByChrissy Stockton

Macam best je..so kita letak sini as ingatan.

Bila bila nak baca boleh buka balik menghiburkan hati :)

Applicable for you know you've MARRIED a high quality woman as well ;p

Make sure you're one :) Beauty is not THE ONLY quality men need.

13 Ways You Know You’re Dating A High-Quality Woman

1. She encourages you to pursue your goals, but she doesn't micromanage. She trusts you to make the right decisions in your own life. She’s the cheerleader, not the coach.

2. She doesn't try to make you jealous. She’s secure in her worth, and your ability to recognize how valuable she is. She doesn't need to play games to “trick” you into seeing her her for what she is.

3. She doesn't have a princess complex. She demands that you treat her with respect — but because she is a person you love, not because she is a woman and therefore magically entitled to something. Just as she would expect you to treat your friends and family with respect, she knows you wouldn't treat her any other way. A high-quality woman wouldn't be with a man who was disrespectful to the people he is close to in life.

4. She has a part of her life that doesn't involve you. Friends, hobbies, career — whatever. She’s confident and independent enough to not need your involvement in everything she does.

5. You wouldn't think twice about inviting her into different parts of your life: a barbecue with your college friends, a dinner with your parents, a fancy work party — she knows how to handle herself in different settings. She’s mature enough to make a good impression with your colleagues and wise enough to know letting loose with your friends and having fun doesn't mean she’s immature.

6. She takes care of herself. This doesn't mean she is perfect, it means she is always improving. You don’t have to tell her she needs to solve a problem in her life. She’s self-aware and sees what issues she has and is self-motivated enough to constantly be working to improve them. She needs a partner, not a dad.

7. When she is in a situation where she doesn't know people, she introduces herself confidently. She doesn't cling meekly to your side waiting for you to facilitate every social interaction.

8. A reasonable, non-hyper-conservative employer could look at her social media presence and hire her.

9. She isn’t shy about sex. If she doesn’t want to do something, she can articulate why instead of just saying “ew”. Your sex life with her isn’t a shady secret she feels uncomfortable talking about, it’s adult and healthy and you both work to keep the flame alive.

10. She has opinions more than “idk” and she can talk calmly and non-hyperbolically about them. If she disagrees with you, you can have a conversation about it without anyone raising their voice.

11. She would never joke with her friends or family (or worse, your friends or family) about how men are “stupid” or childish, or whatever “happy wife happy life” mantra you’ve heard women use to put down the partners they love.

12. She knows what she wants in life. She doesn’t change her values or goals to tailor fit the guy she is with.

13. You feel lucky to be dating her because you know she would never date anyone just to date them. She isn’t afraid to be single and she is self-sufficient. You know she is dating you because she’s attracted to you and she thinks that you will help each other grow to be even higher quality, together.


**"idk"= i don't know

25 Rules for Mothers of Sons

Salam Jumaat peeps,
(ya now i now some of the daddies in my office (and in hubby's office too...ya ya..you la siapa lagi) reads this blog so greeting mommies are somehow not relevent anymore)

One of my best reads :)
Come let's read.

I was raised by a working mom, so i do not really see how working mom's cannot raise children well.
For me, some time off from the children, makes the heart grow fonder and we try to appreciate every single moment together. Weekends will be the utmost time.

It's really an individual decision.
To stay at home or to work.
Doesn't really make you a good or bad mother ;p
There is no such thing as a bad mom. A bad person doesn't deserves to be a mother :)

Go through the rules.
I foremost thank my MIL for bringing up a wonderful helpful and thoughtful person my husband is now :')

From here

25 Rules for Mothers of Sons

1. Teach him the words for how he feels.
Your son will scream out of frustration and hide out of embarrassment.  He’ll cry from fear and bite out of excitement.  Let his body move by the emotion, but also explain to him what the emotion is and the appropriate response to that emotion for future reference.  Point out other people who are feeling the same thing and compare how they are showing that emotion.  Talk him through your emotions so that someday when he is grown, he will know the difference between angry and embarrassed; between disappointment and grief.

2. Be a cheerleader for his life.
There is no doubt that you are the loudest person in the stands at his t-ball games.  There is no doubt that he will tell you to “stop, mom” when you sing along to his garage band’s lyrics.  There is no doubt that he will get red-faced when you show his prom date his pictures from boy scouts.  There is no doubt that he is not telling his prom date about your blog where you’ve been bragging about his life from his first time on the potty to the citizenship award he won in ninth grade.  He will tell you to stop.  He will say he’s embarrassed.  But he will know that there is at least one person that is always rooting for him.

3. Teach him how to do laundry.
..And load the dishwasher, and iron a shirt.  He may not always choose to do it.  He may not ever have to do it.  But someday his wife will thank you.

4. Read to him and read with him.
Emilie Buchwald said, “Children become readers on the laps of their parents.”  Offer your son the opportunity to learn new things, believe in pretend places, and imagine bigger possibilities through books.  Let him see you reading…reading the paper, reading novels, reading magazine articles.  Help him understand that writing words down is a way to be present forever.  Writers are the transcribers of history and memories.  They keep a record of how we lived at that time; what we thought was interesting; how we spoke to each other; what was important.  And Readers help preserve and pass along those memories.

5. Encourage him to dance.
Dance, rhythm, and music are cultural universals.  No matter where you go, no matter who you meet – they have some form of the three.  It doesn’t have to be good.  Just encourage your son that when he feels it, it’s perfectly fine to go ahead and bust a move.

6. Make sure he has examples of good men who are powerful because of their brains, their determination, and their integrity.
The examples of men with big muscles and a uniform like Batman will surround your son from birth.  But make sure he also knows about men who kick a$s because of their brains (Albert Einstein), and their pen Mark Twain, and their words (Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.), and their determination (Team Hoyt), and their ideas (The Wright Brothers), and their integrity, and fearlessness (Neil Armstrong), and their ability to keep their mouths closed when everyone else is screaming (Jackie Robinson).

7. Make sure he has examples of women who are beautiful because of their brains, their determination, and their integrity.
The examples of traditionally beautiful women (like Daphna Blake) will surround your son from birth.  But make sure he knows about women who are beautiful from the inside out because of their brains (Madame Maria Curie), and their pen (Harper Lee), and their words (Eleanor Roosevelt), and their determination (Anne Sullivan), and their ideas (Oprah Winfrey), and their integrity (Miep Gies), and fearlessness (Ameila Earhart), and their ability to open their mouths and take a stand when everyone else is silent (Aung San Suu Kyi).

8. Be an example of a beautiful woman with brains, determination, and integrity.
You already are all of those things.  If you ever fear that you are somehow incapable of doing anything - remember this:  If you have done any of the following:  a) grew life b) impossibly and inconceivably got it out of your body c) taken care of a newborn d) made a pain go away with a kiss e) taught someone to read f) taught a toddler to eat with a utensil g) cleaned up diarrhea without gagging h) loved a child enough to be willing to give your life for them (regardless if they are your own) or i) found a way to be strong when that child is suffering...you are a superhero.  do not doubt yourself for one second.  Seriously.

9. Teach him to have manners.
Because its nice.  and it will make the world a little better of a place.

10. Give him something to believe in.
Because someday he will be afraid, or nervous, or heartbroken, or lost, or just need you, and you won’t be able to be there.  Give him something to turn to when it feels like he is alone, so that he knows that he will never be alone; never, never, never.

11. Teach him that there are times when you need to be gentle.
Like with babies, and flowers, and animals, and other people’s feelings.

12. Let him ruin his clothes.
Resolve to be cool about dirty and ruined clothes.  You’ll be fighting a losing battle if you get upset every time he ruins another piece of clothing. Don’t waste your energy being angry about something inevitable.  Boys tend to learn by destroying, jumping, spilling, falling, and making impossible messes.  Dirty, ruined clothes are just par for the course.

13. Learn how to throw a football.
Or how to use a hockey stick, or read music, or draw panda bears (or in my case alpacas), or the names of different train engines, or learn to speak Elvish, or recognize the difference between Gryffindor and Slytherin, or the lyrics to his favorite song.  Be in his life, not as an observer but as an active participant.

14. Go outside with him.
Turn off the television, unplug the video games, put your cellphone on the charger, even put your camera away.  Just go outside and follow him around.  Watch his face, explore his world, and let him ask questions.  It’s like magic.

15. Let him lose.
Losing sucks.  Everybody isn’t always a winner.  Even if you want to say, “You’re a winner because you tried,” don’t.  He doesn’t feel like a winner, he feels sad and crappy and disappointed.  And that’s a good thing, because sometimes life also sucks, no matter how hard (as moms) we try to make it not suck for our kids.  This practice will do him good later when he loses again (and again, and again, and again, and again…..)  Instead make sure he understands that – sometimes you win – sometimes you lose.  But that doesn’t mean you ever give up.

16. Give him opportunities to help others.
There is a big difference in giving someone the opportunity to help and forcing someone to help.  Giving the opportunity lights a flame in the heart and once the help is done the flame shines brighter and asks for more opportunities.  Be an example of helping others in your own actions and the way your family helps each other and helps others together. 

17. Remind him that practice makes perfect.
This doesn’t just apply to performance-based activities (like sports and music) but also applies to everything in life.  You become a better writer by writing.  You become a better listener by listening.  You become better speaker by speaking.  Show your son this when he is just young enough to understand (that means from birth, folks – they are making sense of the world as soon as they arrive), practice trick-or-treating at your own front door before the real thing.  Practice how you will walk through airport security before a trip.  Practice how you order your own food from the fast food cashier.  Practice, practice, practice.

18. Answer him when he asks, “Why?”
Answer him, or search for the answer together.  Show him the places to look for the answers (like his dad, or grandparents, or his aunts/uncles, or his books, or valid internet searches).  Pose the question to him so he can begin thinking about answers himself.  Someday, when he needs to ask questions he’s too embarrassed to ask you – he’ll know where to go to find the right answers.

19. Always carry band-aids and wipes on you.
Especially the wipes.

20. Let his dad teach him how to do things.
…Without interrupting about how to do it the ‘right way.’  If you let his dad show and teach and discover with your son while he is growing up, some day down the road (after a short period of your son believing his dad knows nothing), he will come to the realization that his dad knows everything.  You will always be his mother, but in his grown-up man heart and mind, his dad will know the answers.  And this will be how, when your son is too busy with life to call and chat with his mom,  you will stay connected to what is happening in his life.  Because he will call his dad for answers, and his dad will secretly come and ask you.

21. Give him something to release his energy.
Drums, a pen, a punching bag, wide open space, water, a dog.  Give him something to go crazy with – or he will use your stuff.  and then you’ll sorry.

22. Build him forts.
Forts have the ability to make everyday normal stuff into magic.  Throw the couch cushions, a couple blankets, and some clothespins and you can transform your living room into the cave of wonders.  For the rest of his life, he’ll be grateful to know that everyday normal stuff has the potential to be magical.

23. Take him to new places.
Because it will make his brain and his heart open up wider, and the ideas and questions and memories will rush in.

24. Kiss him.
Any mother of sons will tell you that little boys are so loving and sweet.  They can be harsh and wild and destructive during most of the day.  But there are these moments when they are so kind and sensitive and tender.  So much so that it can cause you to look around at the inward, reserved grown men in your life and think, ‘what happens in between that made you lose that?’  Let’s try to stop the cycle by kissing them when they’re loving and kissing them even more when they’re wild.  Kissing them when they’re 2 months and kissing them when they’re 16 years old.  You’re the mom – you can go ahead and kiss him no matter how big he gets – and make sure he knows it.   p.s. (this one is just as important for dad’s too). 

25. Be home base.

You are home to him.  When he learns to walk, he will wobble a few feet away from you and then come back, then wobble away a little farther and then come back.  When he tries something new, he will look for your proud smile.  When he learns to read, he will repeat the same book to you twenty times in a row, because you’re the only one who will listen that many times.  When he plays his sport, he will search for your face in the stands.  When he is sick, he will call you.  When he really messes up, he will call you.  When he is grown and strong and tough and big and he feels like crying, he will come to you; because a man can cry in front of his mother without feeling self-conscious.  Even when he grows up and has a new woman in his life and gets a new home, you are still his mother; home base, the ever constant, like the sun.  Know that in your heart and everything else will fall into place.

Happy weekends guys!

Love,

Zahra

Some people said it well...

Bravo hanzo!!

Well said, all in all from the eyes of an outsider :)

The launch of the new Proton Suprima S was supposed to prove that Proton has shown its capability to produce a world class car and design and specifications that can meet other C segment rivals from established car marques. However the moment leaked information on the Suprima specs and pricing has been unleashed on the Internet, it is actually a blowing horn in disguise, indicating the “Proton Bashing Session” has begun. Keyboard warriors has been warming up their fingers and emotions either to defend or to bash Proton’s latest creation during the launch date of August 17th.

Take a look around on motoring blogs, forums and the social media and unexpectedly, the new Suprima has met with less fanfare. In fact it was digital warfare between Proton fanboys and Proton haters. The keyboard warriors has been ferociously bashing the Suprima, from the hideous design (let’s face it, design is subjective matter), ridiculous naming (named after an adult diaper from Germany is a little distasteful), trims and equipment, engine, performance and the one that gathers the biggest complain of all (including yours truly), the steep pricing. Somehow, every ordinary Malaysians has turned into Jeremy Clarkson when a new Proton car is launched.

The launch of the new Proton Suprima has met with less fanfare

The problem is a part of your in laws, Malaysians are some of the hardest people on this planet to impress and satisfy when it comes into motoring cravings. Yes we lived in a unique country where we have to rely on cars as main mode of transportation due to the current abysmal state of public transport and our national cars are the obvious choice if you were not born with silver spoon feeding. There no need to mention about our car pricing as well, as many known, our country has the highest car prices in the world after our neighbor down south. The sadder fact for Malaysians is Proton is still struggling in their home market and internationally where Hyundai and Kia, once on the same league with Proton, has emerged as a top 5 automotive player in the world.

Back on our context, when the first generation of Proton cars were based on badge re-engineering of older Mitsubishi cars, Malaysians ranted we are copying designs and we will not be not good enough to design our own car. So Proton took the feedback from some “Pak Cik”, and few years later when Proton launched its first self-designed car with the Waja and Gen2. Still some concerned mid-thirties from Kuantan bashed the Waja has no basic safety features to protect this family from becoming the next Milo tin. To be fair on the same time period, Japanese and Korean cars on the same category were equipped with standard two air bags, ABS and EBD. Proton heard them so they added these basic safety features with additional cost, with the Waja and Gen 2 reaching RM60-70K range which is not cheap, complains of the car being too expensive for a national car came from the mouths of many Malaysians.

Believe it or not, typical Malaysians will be transformed to Jeremy Clarkson the moment Proton launches a new car

The cash rich Proton with the help of the Malaysian government has shown it’s might to the automotive world by purchasing Lotus and MV Augusta. Sure it helps the marketing side for Proton that Proton cars are engineered by Lotus and there no doubt the ride and handling department for Proton were sublime compared to their competition. Unfortunately, they have forgotten about Lotus abysmal quantity control and to add salt to Proton injury, knowing quality control is Proton’s Achilles heel which leads Proton quality woes to spiral downside. With that, all Malaysian from all races united to voice their incendiary flames of frustration towards their Proton’s broken plastics, malfunction power windows and many more. Mind you these are the complains prior the Internet and social media era comes in place.

Then some young punks on a traffic light drag race in Jalan Ampang launched their Proton like how Clarkson shouted “POWAARR” and found the underpowered Mitsubishi engines were like hamster powered. So Proton took the notch a little higher by self producing the underwhelming Campro engines. Over the time when the global oil hike crisis hit every average Malaysians, they came and unite to bash Campro engines were rather too thirsty.

During the mid noughties when Proton is losing the top spot to Perodua and losing sales from disappointments from the Savvy, Satria Neo and Gen2, Proton went back to the drawing board and understands they need to replace the aging Wira saloon. So they added a boot on the Gen 2 model and release the Persona model, which comes with basic safety features and the eye opening life time warranty on power windows. However, some keyboard warrior who watches too much Top Gear UK replied on some local automotive blogs bashed Proton for not keeping up with times as Volkswagen has already produced a turbocharged engine for mass use. Then his peers commented on some automotive forum saying two airbags is not enough and that makes Proton still a substandard car.

The new Suprima S has been launch, unleash the keyboard warriors from the 38th Royal Digital Regiment!

With all feedback obtained and millions spent, the new Preve was launched and it is Proton first global car. As you can understand the trend of this article is written, yes you guessed right, more bashing on the Preve. From the hard to pronounce name “Preve”, the underpowered and fuel sucking turbocharged engine issue are some of the few weakness every “Clarkson” from all parts of Malaysia has pointed out. Amazingly the power window issues that haunted many Proton cars were almost unheard when the Preve is launched. Also, quality issues have been reduced dramatically. Yet no a single Malaysian mentioned or praised Proton on this.

Come 2013 and now if you look back to what Malaysian wants and what Proton has delivered, you can see actually Proton is currently following global car trends by attempting to match what renowned car marques like Volkswagen, Hyundai and so on offered for their range of cars the Suprima S is offering. The thing is Proton can chose to offer a cheaper variant for the Suprima with lesser gadgets, say 2 airbags (instead of 6 on the S), key starter instead of push start button, 15 inch wheels instead of 16-17 inch offered and many more. Name it as Suprima V (value?) and perhaps it can sell at below RM70,000. But bashers will always be bashers; they will yet find a light at the end of the tunnel to find faults on the Proton.

Will the Proton Suprima S overcome the odds?

So with the constant bashing and dissatisfaction gathered from the basher’s feedback, there are a few questions pointed for them. What they can gain from all these bashing, either to become Proton vice-chairman position or perhaps to host Top Gear Malaysia TV show? Have they driven the car before? Most importantly, have they owned the Suprima S? Personally I don’t have the proper answer for these. But maybe I can answer the first one, where I had a brief test drive for 5 minutes a day after it was launched. To me, I think it is not a bad car, with great ride and handling, not underpowered, roomy interior and generous equipment list. Just that it is slightly pricey for a national car but compared to its C segment hatchback competitors it isn’t that bad. No doubt it is a better buy compared to nearest B segment cars.

After all, one meat is another man’s poison. As what great comedian Bill Cosby says, “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” sums up everything. The Suprima may never able to please everyone, but honestly on hindsight I can’t be sure if this car can be successful.

Wednesday quote

"most difficult thing to do in the world is to change"

well, nobody likes changes except a baby with a dirty diaper :)
that's why we are always still at the same level for years and years and years..

ask the Japanese, why they still draw dwgs manually and dont believe in CATIA dwg.
hehehee.. gila sengal pakcik2 jepun2 ni..dunia dh modern still nak lukis pkai pembaris and endorse dwg pkai chop approve zaman batu.

stress!~